Personailtypage.com, a Myers-Briggs website, draws on the concept that a person gets along the best in a relationship with some one of "the same dominant function, but a different attitude,"(introverted or extroverted). A person with Introvert Sensing (Si) as their dominant function is best coupled with someone who has Extroverted Sensing as their dominant (Se). A relationship between an ISTJ and ESFP would be an example of this ideal pairing.
https://www.personalitypage.com/html/partners.html
https://www.personalitypage.com/html/relationships.html
Defining and analyzing what seems attractive according to the dominant functions seems to support this claim.
Fi- Introverted feeling seeks to maintain an internal balance. It dislikes anything that disrupts this balance. It perceives the world through an emotional eye. Everything is understood by how it makes itself feel. Fi perceives things through its feelings. Fi 's perceptions are not attuned to the standards of anyone else. A hairstyle could be widely excepted and Fi will be bothered by it. Fi will desire mates whose appearances and characteristics do not conflict with their internal world of emotional perceptions. This means hairstyles and clothing, as well as offensive behavior can make a big difference in how a companion and others are viewed.
Fe- Seeks for external harmony. Fe dominants will want others to project themselves in a delight-some way and because of this healthy ones will try to project themselves in a pleasant manner as well. They will go to great lengths to dress and style their hair in a fashionable manner. They have instinctive perceptions of what does and does not look good, but they mostly desire to please others and be pleased by others in return. Because of this they are more sensitive to the standards others have for appearance. They will enjoy others who have a sense of style in their outward appearance and in their personality.
The Fe fits in perfectly with the Fi because both will be mindful of the emotions appearance and behavior will cause, yet is allows for grow. The Fi user will learn to care more about how others perceive them, and the Fe will learn to care less.
Ni- Seeks to draw meaning from all it considers and internalize it. It compares everything to this internal framework of data and meaning. Ni values others who can express themselves in a meaningful manner, and have something meaningful to say. Ni dominants value good looks in companions, but there has to be something captivating about the person inside the body other than appearance. Untypical physical characteristics are more likely to be seen as unique and attractive.
Ne- are hopeless romantics. They dare believe a spouse can be perfect. Looks, talents, and brains are all on their list. However, they are more likely than other types to have cross racial marriage. While they value looks they have the ability to over look it if they like the person inside;
Si- The ability to focus intensely on an object or the physical features someone has makes it difficult for looks to not matter; however, Si users understand that they will notice flaws in appearance regardless of how attractive a person initially appears, so they will not require a person to look perfect in order for them to be considered for a relationship. The two Si doms will differ greatly in what they want however. ISTJs will value a partner for there capabilities and loyalty. ISFJs will value an overall togetherness and pleasantness of character.
Se- Finite details can take some time to be noticed. A person may get away with an otherwise unsightly aspect of their appearance so long as it has not grabbed the Se user's attention or they have never deeply considered it a flaw. Se doms do not simply go for good looks, but they need them ( I am exaggerating a bit to make a point)! While they need to like the way their partner looks, their definitions and perceptions of looks are so broad, random, and scattered, that there is no telling who or what they will find attractive.
Ti- full of steam and analyses. Someone equally full of steam and analysis is a must for them.
Te- "I don't care about a pretty face, I want someone who makes me feel good." quoted from an ESTJ, I know, the Lord blessed him with a super hot wife anyway for being so good. This ENTJ girl I know is not the best looking but dates very attractive men. She uses her Se and needs as hot a man she can get and her outgoing Te Ni personality, is resourceful and wise about getting men (Even when she goes to an all girls school!)
Closing words until I update again (which I will!). Dating is not pure luck or talent, but a carefully calculable game. A person with a great strategy and determination, *cough* ENTJ *cough* can get what they want from it. The rest of us have to suck it up and be as smart and hardworking as they are.
